FranD (Georgia)
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Posts: 102
Posted:
Is there something the board can do to stop personal attacks between two board members?
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RobertR1 (South Carolina)
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Posts: 5,164
Posted:
Fran,
What are you asking?
Are you talking about two members arguing at a board meeting?
The presiding can limit the time each person talks, set the rules and stick to it.
The presiding of the Board can set all the rules for the meeting, it is nice to have agreement with other Board members, but, the presiding carries the gavel, the gavel stops discussion and the presiding rules, not the board, not while the meeting is underway.\
Out side the Board meetings, tell them to take it outside or back in the trees or walk away from them, no other board member need stand for improper conduct.
What are you asking?
Are you talking about two members arguing at a board meeting?
The presiding can limit the time each person talks, set the rules and stick to it.
The presiding of the Board can set all the rules for the meeting, it is nice to have agreement with other Board members, but, the presiding carries the gavel, the gavel stops discussion and the presiding rules, not the board, not while the meeting is underway.\
Out side the Board meetings, tell them to take it outside or back in the trees or walk away from them, no other board member need stand for improper conduct.
SusanW1 (Michigan)
Posts: 5,202
Posts: 5,202
Posted:
This is an issue for the presiding officer to handle.
Either declare the discussion out of order - or tell them they will be asked to leave the meeting if they can't discuss things civily.
Either declare the discussion out of order - or tell them they will be asked to leave the meeting if they can't discuss things civily.
MicheleD (Kentucky)
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Posts: 4,491
Posted:
. . . and I might throw in a new policy of video-taping the meetings.
Sometimes, not always, knowing that one is being filmed can take the steam out of some confrontations.
Sometimes, not always, knowing that one is being filmed can take the steam out of some confrontations.
FranD (Georgia)
Posts: 102
Posts: 102
Posted:
Video taping and recording at the meetings if you don't get their permission is considered wire tapping so we don't do this.
The personal attack I am referring to was between one board member to another.
One was given a task to get proposals from landscapers.
Once the proposal was sent to the board - another member called the company to ask a homeowner question to the company.
The other thought they were stepping on her toes since she was given the task
So she sent the other this email stating evil comments and to basically stay out of her business. It was so vicious and personal that the other sent a reply hoping to end it.
The first person should of called the other to talk sensibly about it instead of the evil attacks via email...
The personal attack I am referring to was between one board member to another.
One was given a task to get proposals from landscapers.
Once the proposal was sent to the board - another member called the company to ask a homeowner question to the company.
The other thought they were stepping on her toes since she was given the task
So she sent the other this email stating evil comments and to basically stay out of her business. It was so vicious and personal that the other sent a reply hoping to end it.
The first person should of called the other to talk sensibly about it instead of the evil attacks via email...
MicheleD (Kentucky)
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Posts: 4,491
Posted:
Quote:
Posted By FranD on 02/22/2010 5:55 AM
Video taping and recording at the meetings if you don't get their permission is considered wire tapping so we don't do this.
The personal attack I am referring to was between one board member to another.
One was given a task to get proposals from landscapers.
Once the proposal was sent to the board - another member called the company to ask a homeowner question to the company.
The other thought they were stepping on her toes since she was given the task
So she sent the other this email stating evil comments and to basically stay out of her business. It was so vicious and personal that the other sent a reply hoping to end it.
The first person should of called the other to talk sensibly about it instead of the evil attacks via email...
Video taping and recording at the meetings if you don't get their permission is considered wire tapping so we don't do this.
The personal attack I am referring to was between one board member to another.
One was given a task to get proposals from landscapers.
Once the proposal was sent to the board - another member called the company to ask a homeowner question to the company.
The other thought they were stepping on her toes since she was given the task
So she sent the other this email stating evil comments and to basically stay out of her business. It was so vicious and personal that the other sent a reply hoping to end it.
The first person should of called the other to talk sensibly about it instead of the evil attacks via email...
Fran, I never said without their video-taping without their permission. I said simply create a new policy that all meetings are video-taped.
Did you not read the complete reply? I don't know how you could have thought I said anything about doing it secretly. The entire purpose of making it a VERY PUBLIC TAPING is that sometimes people will behave better when a camera is in the room. Not always, but many will.
However, as I read your explanation, it sounds to me more like these two had a personal confrontation over email and you and the other board members should stay out of it.
Whether the person in charge of the project made "evil" comments or not could be subjective, but she is dead on point in telling the other board member to stay out of her business.
The only way the "other" could have "ended it" would be if their reply was, "Oh, I'm sorry, I did not mean to step into your project. Please accept my apology and it won't happen again."
Hope that helps!
DonnaS (Tennessee)
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Posts: 5,671
Posted:
I read these posts on stupid behavior among Board members and I just want to wack them along side of the head. Michelle is right, sometimes it is not Board business at all.
But then when it carries over into the meetings, even tho it might be silent, the tension is counterproductive and needs to end. I would like to hope that there is some person on the Board who could act as peacemaker, who removes the blame and mediates these 2 members into giving up the childness behavior.
Our Master Gardener President is 70 years old and will take any person or persons who are not in sync with the mood of what is going on, out into the hall. She makes them duke it out until there is a resolution. It always works, making them to understand that we will not nor cannot work as a team when there is trivial stuff going on. We all have feelings and passions but to remain focused on disharmony never is allowed. Only 1 time has someone left a meeting still having their shorts in a bunch.
FranD (Georgia)
Posts: 102
Posts: 102
Posted:
I like your comment - I'd like to wack them too. It shouldn't get personal, we are neighbors. I am the secretary and the peacemaker trying my best to end this animosity. You write very well and I thank you for your responses. I remember the movie "You've got mail" where Tom Hanks it is not personal, it is just business so take it to the mattress (aka duke it out) Thanks again
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