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NealN1 (Washington)
Posts: 3
Posted:
Can an HOA get a restraining order to prevent a non-resident from entering the HOA?

We have a couple in their 60s who have a son that has been a professional car thief for over 20 years, and they have no ability to influence his criminal behavior. He has several felony convictions for car thefts and other crimes. Every time he is released from jail, he comes and stays with his parents. When he does, he brings crime and other criminals into the HOA. On video we have him bringing stolen cars and other items to the HOA and storing those stolen items at his parents. His parents no longer ask him questions about the items because they do not want to know the details, but after 20+ years, they see it 100s of times and know everything he brings home is stolen.

Local police have been informed many times and provided with video security footage, but the cycle keeps happening in our community because the parents provide him with a place to stay when out of jail, and he then uses their home as a base of his criminal operation. The only time we get relief is when he is in jail\prison.

If possible, we want to get a restraining order to prevent him from being on HOA property, which may force local police to act and arrest him for violating the restraining order. Currently, police take no action unless he is caught in the act of committing a crime (ie driving a stolen car).

MichaelL24 (California)
Posts: 7
Posted:
I am not an attorney, but I can certainly fathom a guess. HOA's are business entities and business entities, for the most part, cannot file for a restraining order. There may be exceptions, but I would have no idea as I have never encountered a situation like the one you described. In these types of matters, every situation is different and it is best to consult an attorney to see what courses of action are available to you and the residents of your community.
TimB4 (Tennessee)
Posts: 21,062
Posted:
This is something you need to talk with the Association attorney about.
MichaelT21 (Arkansas)
Posts: 462
Posted:
Are your streets public? If so, you cannot file for a restraining order to my knowledge. For better or worse, our public streets are open to all including those who are habitual criminals.
MichaelT21 (Arkansas)
Posts: 462
Posted:
Reading the post again, you want to ban them from HOA property. This is difficult because they are the invited guest of the owner, and you probably allow other invited guests of owners on HOA property.

Also, it is not clear what property you want to ban them from. If you are talking parks and pools, then the person might just avoid those areas. If your streets are private and you are talking streets, you have better leverage.

It's not clear to me what you are really asking for.
MelissaP1 (Alabama)
Posts: 13,836
Posted:
The HOA is not participating in any criminal activity. They are not a party to it. Now if the guy wants to drag his parents into illegal activity that is on him. It is shameful but true. This is a private matter. Just be aware and report if necessary. Otherwise do not bring the neighborhood into it.

Former HOA President
LetA (Nevada)
Posts: 2,679
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Posted By NealN1 on 11/01/2022 1:06 AM
Can an HOA get a restraining order to prevent a non-resident from entering the HOA?

We have a couple in their 60s who have a son that has been a professional car thief for over 20 years, and they have no ability to influence his criminal behavior. He has several felony convictions for car thefts and other crimes. Every time he is released from jail, he comes and stays with his parents. When he does, he brings crime and other criminals into the HOA. On video we have him bringing stolen cars and other items to the HOA and storing those stolen items at his parents. His parents no longer ask him questions about the items because they do not want to know the details, but after 20+ years, they see it 100s of times and know everything he brings home is stolen.

Local police have been informed many times and provided with video security footage, but the cycle keeps happening in our community because the parents provide him with a place to stay when out of jail, and he then uses their home as a base of his criminal operation. The only time we get relief is when he is in jail\prison.

If possible, we want to get a restraining order to prevent him from being on HOA property, which may force local police to act and arrest him for violating the restraining order. Currently, police take no action unless he is caught in the act of committing a crime (ie driving a stolen car).


This is a tricky situation. Since the son is likely not on the deed or a property owner, you can have a police officer trespass him from the community common areas.
You would have to have rock solid proof this guy is the culprit, there are always the avenue of the homeowners suing the offending homeowner individually.
SheliaH (Indiana)
Posts: 6,964
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As others have said, you'll need solid proof the stuff is stolen before police can do anything. However, I wonder if the man us terrorizing hus oarents and possibly stealing their money and property. 5hat could warrant a visit from adult protective services, and they may have a way to compel the guy to behave or move out.

Do you know if the man is still on parole? In many cases one of the parole requirements is not to associate with known criminals- his parole officer might find that interesting. Of you'll also need proof the friends are also criminals.

There may be some sort of community relations officer you can speak to to get some ideas on how 5o approach this. in the meantime, it's always helpful to remind homeowners of personal safety tips, especially now as tbe holiday season is fast approaching

If it is not right do not do it; if it is not true do not say it. Marcus Aurelius
AugustinD
Posts: 1,027
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Posted By NealN1 on 11/01/2022 1:06 AM
On video we have him bringing stolen cars and other items to the HOA and storing those stolen items at his parents. His parents no longer ask him questions about the items because they do not want to know the details, but after 20+ years, they see it 100s of times and know everything he brings home is stolen.
No, the corporation cannot get a restraining order against a bona fide guest of owners on the basis of people suspecting (nothing more) he has stolen xyz and is storing xyz at his parents' home in the HOA.

If a guest were, say, harassing vendors of the HOAs; the HOA manager; or the HOA Board, then the corporation might have standing to seek a restraining order.

I hear you that you feel the police are not doing your job. But this does not give your HOA the authority to act as judge and jury and become some flavor of vigilante.
CathyA3 (Ohio)
Posts: 6,299
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I agree with the others: the problem is the parents who allow the son to live with them. In fairness to them, though, it can be tough to get rid of someone living in your home, even if that person hasn't signed a lease and you want them out.

There has been a move in recent years to protect the rights of felons. However, the HOA also has some obligation to notify other residents of the possible dangers posed by such a person.

* Our attorney suggested notifying the community that the board believes that a felon may be living in the community and referring residents to local law enforcement resources for further information.

* You can invite someone from the local police or sheriff's department to address homeowners at a board meeting or annual meeting to discuss general safety procedures. (If you have problems making quorum at your annual meetings, something like this can be helpful.)

* Start a neighborhood watch.

* While I don't recommend social media for a whole host of reasons, I've noticed that people will post information about trouble in their neighborhoods, so everyone in that area gets a heads-up. There are popular social media sites that cater to homeowners and neighborhoods. I strongly *discourage* the HOA from using their own websites for such a purpose because of the possibility of defamatory content being posted.

THe HOA has a tough balancing act: protecting the rights and needs of the community without starting a witch hunt. I encourage the board to consult with the association's attorney to make sure they're handling things correctly.
MarkM19 (Texas)
Posts: 1,459
Posted:
NealN1,
Have you checked online to see if Washington State has a "HotSheet" for stolen cars? Not sure if this is ever Public information. If it was and you see new cars near the area if they are on the list, you could have every right to call them in. PDs today do not have time to do much regular sleuthing, but everyone likes to get the easy ones.

I feel for you as someone who has had a bad family in my Ca. HOA. You know more trouble is coming you just don't know when it will happen.
TerisaG (California)
Posts: 10
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My HOA obtained a restraining order against me (a temporary one until the trial but I settled because I couldn't afford an attorney). The property manager and I had an altercation and the property manager retaliated against me by filing for a restraining order. But she filed it in the name of my HOA as a workplace violence matter even though the property manager is an independent contractor. I have never had any issue with any Board member or any member of my HOA - just with this property manager who is making bonuses off of vendor contracts. I thought it was strange that the judge even considered a temporary restraining order on behalf of my HOA especially based on the evidence presented (none as to my HOA, only as to the property manager). Even worse, my HOA is paying the property manager's attorney fees because the president fully supports her.
AugustinD
Posts: 1,027
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Posted By TerisaG on 11/13/2022 10:42 AM
My HOA obtained a restraining order against me (a temporary one until the trial but I settled because I couldn't afford an attorney). The property manager and I had an altercation and the property manager retaliated against me by filing for a restraining order. But she filed it in the name of my HOA as a workplace violence matter even though the property manager is an independent contractor. [snip] I thought it was strange that the judge even considered a temporary restraining order on behalf of my HOA especially based on the evidence presented (none as to my HOA, only as to the property manager). Even worse, my HOA is paying the property manager's attorney fees because the president fully supports her.
Don't you think there is a lot of overlap here between the corporate workplace and who was claiming harassment? Assuming actual harassment occurred rising to a level of inappropriate disturbance of the manager's ability to work, I do not find any of what you described to be particularly unusual.

I am glad you settled. I trust you are well aware that having a restraining order on one's record is not advisable. Maybe you did not get justice. But you did consider the reality of the situation, and I think this is a good thing.

On the other hand, I know there are managers out there who will claim asking them a question is harassment. Such managers want owners to stay away so they can do xyz (which may or may not be appropriate conduct).

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I have never had any issue with any Board member or any member of my HOA - just with this property manager who is making bonuses off of vendor contracts.
You are accusing the manager of a crime. This may be hazardous to your legal health, starting with the manager claiming defamation. Leading to a manager who seeks a restraining order, possibly lying to the board and court to get it.

In my experience, too many owners think that it is okay to apply pressure to a manager, because the manager does, after all, work for the owners. No attitude could be more misplaced. If an owner does not like something the manager is doing, the correct, legal means to correct this is to go through the board. Or possibly run for the board with a group of other, like-minded owners.
CathyA3 (Ohio)
Posts: 6,299
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Posted By AugustinD on 11/13/2022 10:57 AM
... snip ...

In my experience, too many owners think that it is okay to apply pressure to a manager, because the manager does, after all, work for the owners. No attitude could be more misplaced. If an owner does not like something the manager is doing, the correct, legal means to correct this is to go through the board. Or possibly run for the board with a group of other, like-minded owners.

To add a bit about "the manager works for the owners":

As Augustin said: nope. The manager either:

* Is an employee of the association (which is a corporation)

* Is an employee of a management company that provides specific contracted services for clients of the management company

* Is an independent contractor who is self-employed and provides specific contracted services for clients

Individual homeowners have no right to tell the manager what to do (and this may even by a violation of the governing documents or community rules). In addition, employee managers have certain rights under US labor laws, and the board has a legal obligation to comply with the law and rein in an abusive homeowner. If the manager isn't an employee, it's still the board's job to prevent the manager from being mistreated. It is harmful to an association if it gets a reputation for being a lousy client, because the quality management companies may either be unwilling to work for it or they'll add a "nuisance surcharge" to their normal rates.

I second Augustin's comment about being careful about slinging accusations without proof. There are certain types of defamation for which damages are assumed, and accusations of criminal conduct is one of them. Also, it's the kind of accusation that someone really can't let slide - their professional reputation is at risk. Someone who can't afford a lawyer does not want to end up on the receiving end of a default judgment.

(Disclaimer: not a lawyer but hangs out with some.)

NealN1 (Washington)
Posts: 3
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To be clear, this problem has been going on for over 20 years. The only time the community gets any relief is when he is in jail\prison. It's not like we are looking to harass anyone because they are not cutting their grass or leaving their trash cans on the sidewalk. We are looking for solutions to 20 year problem of one individual (non-resident) who brings crimes into the community. Not only crimes, but his criminal behavior has attracted the attention of gangs, and gang members have come into our community looking to do him harm.

Recently, a homeowner found out that a potential buyer backed out of the deal because the buyer (or his agent) did a crime check for the area, and found out this one home has had 20 years of problems that required law enforcement to be involved. As high as nightly 911 calls to the homeowner's property (his parents). Other times we had bounty hunters parking in the nearby waiting for the guy to appear.

Yes, the HOA and everyone else in the community has to follow the law, but this individual knows that he can cross any legal boundary he wants knowing that rest of us will not. He can bring a truckload of stolen items and store it in his parent's home and the local lolice don't want us calling them because his unloading expensive items from a truck, even though he has 20 year history of burglary, car thefts and has no employment history of any kind. His career is crime, and he knows how to work the system to his advantage. Police are more ticked off at the community for reporting his activity than they are at him. He is not causing them any specific problems, so if we stopped calling them to report behavior that indirectly involves crimes (unloading a truck is not a crime, but how the items got into the truck is involved a crime(s)), local police would be happy if we just accepted this 20-year pattern in our community as normal\acceptable. From the police perspective, we are calling for trivial reasons because he has not harmed physically anybody or threaten to do so. Its like the community standards are too high because we reject a criminal lifestyle where the personal and the professional revolve around crime; the police (and some outsiders) perceive those standards as being unreasonable.
AugustinD
Posts: 1,027
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NealN1,

I think you need to hear from an attorney what the HOA's options (or lack thereof) are.

Sometimes the only good solution is selling one's home and leaving the neighborhood. Hasn't this been tradition since the days of cave-men and cave-women, evading stinky swamps, drought conditions, grizzly bears and yes, thieving, hostile locals?
MelissaP1 (Alabama)
Posts: 13,836
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The HOA again is a group and a corporation. It is up to the individual person or persons that are a victim of the crime to take the proper legal actions. You can all form a "neighborhood watch" SEPARATELY from the HOA. This means absolute NO association money or associated with the HOA in any terms. The membership is open to everyone including non-members/renters. It is people in the community.

This option may fit your needs the best as you can act as an individual to report the crimes or suspected activity to the police. Someone sees something, they say something. The local police department can assist you in educating and providing a sign when entering. We had one in our HOA. A son of a board member had a kid committing crimes in our HOA. It was well known it was him. Seen him commit a crime myself. (Stole a cab ride and me and the driver had to locate him).

Please do NOT associate the Neighborhood watch in any shape of form with the HOA. Again can NOT stress that enough. Trevyn Martin case in Florida proves that the HOA should not be associated with a Watch program nor carry guns. (Unless licensed properly, trained, and legal). It is opening the HOA to a huge lawsuit if you do. Doesn't mean you can't still have the same people in both. They should even have separate meetings. It may be the best bet to educate everyone on recognizing crime and what to legally do about it.

Former HOA President
TerisaG (California)
Posts: 10
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Yes you are right, I did do something wrong. I sent the property manager about 5 emails one night calling her some expletive names. I regretted it later and would never do something so stupid ever again. The emails were non-threatening. This was after I had already been retaliated against by this property manager on three occasions because of my knowledge about the company and my vocalizing this to our Board. The property management company had been hired by a corrupt president that I exposed and was then ousted. I felt because this president only hired vendors when he was offered kickbacks by that vendor, that this property management company was suspect and should be fired. I have read several reviews about this property management company colluding with the Board of other HOA's and profiting from vendor contracts. Further, this property management company recently entered into a contract with a vendor for $18,000 more than the previous vendor and the new vendor is owned by a person who is on the Board of another HOA that works with our PMC. We were told by the PM that we had to fire the previous vendor due to homeowner complaints but then the same employee continued working at our complex. When I spoke with that employee, he said that his employer did not change. Only the company name changed. He thought he was working for the same employer / vendor as before when the fact is that he is working for an entirely different company. Then I later found out the previous vendor had resigned due to workers compensation issues. I don't know if I explained this properly but it all seems wrong. I want to let the other homeowners know about this issue so we can form a quorum to get rid of our PMC, but am afraid I am not explaining this well.
MelissaP1 (Alabama)
Posts: 13,836
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So you want to get rid of a PM that is helping do the work of the HOA because you don't like the President. Got it.

Former HOA President
AugustinD
Posts: 1,027
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Posted By TerisaG on 11/13/2022 9:20 PM
Yes you are right, I did do something wrong. I sent the property manager about 5 emails one night calling her some expletive names. I regretted it later and would never do something so stupid ever again. The emails were non-threatening. Okay. I appreciate your statement of how you could have handled things better.

This was after I had already been retaliated against by this property manager on three occasions because of my knowledge about the company and my vocalizing this to our Board.Got it. It happens a lot. AFAIC this does not make said retaliation right. But recognizing when a party whom you oppose has more power is important, as you decide how (or whether) to fight a battle.


The property management company had been hired by a corrupt president that I exposed and was then ousted. I felt because this president only hired vendors when he was offered kickbacks by that vendor, that this property management company was suspect and should be fired.You are accusing the vendors and presidents of crimes. You are holding yourself out to a lawsuit for defamation.

Do you understand what a long process it is to prove kickbacks? You think you have the evidence, but are you a district attorney? Or a HOA/COA attorney? Do you understand how involved an attorney's investigation would be before they concluded anything about what you allege?

I want to let the other homeowners know about this issue so we can form a quorum to get rid of our PMC, but am afraid I am not explaining this well.
Only the board has the legal power to fire the PMC. If you want change, then competent HOA/COA attorneys say this is best caused by a massive campaign to elect new directors at the annual meeting, or calling for a Special Meeting pursuant to California law to remove and replace directors.

I recommend you run the wording you propose to use at any meeting by this forum first.

If you spoke at a Special Meeting of the owners and said what you say above, I would be thinking, "What's her proof? Does she know how to read HOA accounting statements? How much experience with the operations of a HOA does she have?"
AugustinD
Posts: 1,027
Posted:
Trying again, for clarity:
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Posted By TerisaG on 11/13/2022 9:20 PM
Yes you are right, I did do something wrong. I sent the property manager about 5 emails one night calling her some expletive names. I regretted it later and would never do something so stupid ever again. The emails were non-threatening. This was after I had already been retaliated against by this property manager on three occasions because of my knowledge about the company
Okay. I appreciate your statement of how you could have handled things better.
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This was after I had already been retaliated against by this property manager on three occasions because of my knowledge about the company and my vocalizing this to our Board.
Got it. It happens a lot. AFAIC this does not make said retaliation right. But I think recognizing when a party, that one opposes, has more power is important. The other party having more power might even be an excellent reason not to go to war.
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The property management company had been hired by a corrupt president that I exposed and was then ousted. I felt because this president only hired vendors when he was offered kickbacks by that vendor, that this property management company was suspect and should be fired.
To repeat: You are accusing the vendors and presidents of crimes and you are holding yourself out to a lawsuit for defamation. This HOA can stop you dead in your tracks with another lawsuit.

Do you understand what a long process it is to prove kickbacks? You may think you have the evidence, but are you either a district attorney, or a HOA/COA attorney? Do you understand how involved an attorney's investigation would be before the attorney concluded anything about what you allege?

Do consider taking your evidence to a HOA/COA attorney and paying whatever it takes to get sound legal advice. I think this would likely save you a lot of money and grief.
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I want to let the other homeowners know about this issue so we can form a quorum to get rid of our PMC, but am afraid I am not explaining this well.
Do you realize that only the board has the legal power to fire the PMC? Do you realize that, even if you get a board majority who feel as you do, the contract with the PMC might not allow instant termination?

If you want change, then competent HOA/COA attorneys say this is best caused by a massive campaign to elect new directors at the annual meeting, or calling for a Special Meeting pursuant to California law to remove and replace directors.

I recommend you run the wording you propose to use at any meeting by this forum first.

If you spoke at a Special Meeting of the owners and said what you say above, I would be thinking, "What's her proof? Does she know how to read HOA accounting statements? How much experience with the operations of a HOA does she have?"

TerisaG (California)
Posts: 10
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Posted By MelissaP1 on 11/14/2022 4:22 AM
So you want to get rid of a PM that is helping do the work of the HOA because you don't like the President. Got it.

I have no idea where I said this.
TerisaG (California)
Posts: 10
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Is it a crime to receive a kickback? I was not aware of that. I simply thought it was a violation of their contract. I have been offered at my job $250 gift cards to hire a certain company for a job. I never accepted because it didn't feel right. Are you saying that if I accepted it would have been a crime? I have asked the PMC to disclose their conflicts and have been told on more than one occasion, that they have none. I now know this is true because of one of our vendors receiving a contract at a greatly increased rate from the previous vendor and the owner of that new favored vendor being associated with our PM at another HOA. Do I need more proof? I have asked the PM for more information on this contract and he continues to throw the corrupt president that is longer with us under the bus.
MelissaP1 (Alabama)
Posts: 13,836
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Where is that wrong? It is not always the lowest bid that wins. It may be who does the better job and has experience. I will play a contractor more if they are one that I see has good reviews or work ethic. That is not a kick back. It is hiring a contractor of choice. Which is the PM choice.

Former HOA President
AugustinD
Posts: 1,027
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Posted By TerisaG on 11/14/2022 11:32 AM
Is it a crime to receive a kickback? I was not aware of that.
Good point. I think a kickback in this instance amounts to bribery and/or a type of fraud, both of which can be crimes.

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I simply thought it was a violation of their contract. I have been offered at my job $250 gift cards to hire a certain company for a job. I never accepted because it didn't feel right. Are you saying that if I accepted it would have been a crime? I have asked the PMC to disclose their conflicts and have been told on more than one occasion, that they have none. I now know this is true because of one of our vendors receiving a contract at a greatly increased rate from the previous vendor and the owner of that new favored vendor being associated with our PM at another HOA. Do I need more proof? I have asked the PM for more information on this contract and he continues to throw the corrupt president that is longer with us under the bus.
-- Anyone working for company X who accepts payment to him- or herself, in secret, for hiring company Y may very well be breaking a number of laws, company rules. I really do not want to get into this here. It's not the purpose of the forum. All I can say is I think you were right to turn them down. I would have reported company Y to my superiors at company X as well. I say this knowing full well that corporate America is rotten, political, and dog-eat-dog. What you describe sounds way over the line.

-- As for the HOA situation, sitting here in anonymity without all the facts in front of me, I do not think you have anywhere near enough proof to claim kickbacks are occurring.
AugustinD
Posts: 1,027
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TerisaG, if kickbacks are occurring, these kickbacks also present a conflict of interest. Here's some commentary on what this means for California HOAs/COAs:

https://www.davis-stirling.com/HOME/D/Director-Conflicts-of-Interest

https://www.davis-stirling.com/HOME/M/Manager-Conflicts-of-Interest
MarshallT (New York)
Posts: 414
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To my knowledge, properties cannot file restraining orders against people. And this sounds like a difficult situation because the parents are willingly housing their son/his items. If he is not victimizing anyone in the association, it would be hard to create a case against him.

You should reach out to a lawyer for this to see what actions are available to the HOA.
CathyA3 (Ohio)
Posts: 6,299
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Posted By MarshallT on 11/15/2022 5:54 AM
To my knowledge, properties cannot file restraining orders against people. And this sounds like a difficult situation because the parents are willingly housing their son/his items. If he is not victimizing anyone in the association, it would be hard to create a case against him.

You should reach out to a lawyer for this to see what actions are available to the HOA.

Agree strongly about the lawyer. The parents could likely be charged with receiving stolen goods, among other things. If the stuff is on their personal property, that's one thing - but if it ends up anywhere on common area, even for a short time, the HOA may have some liability and be forced to take some action.
AugustinD
Posts: 1,027
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Below is a link to a report from Burlington, Vermont about the increase in crime in recent years and police saying they do not have the resources to address the lesser crimes. Said 'lesser crimes' include punching a person in the back of the head in a city park.

https://www.nytimes.com/2022/11/12/business/burlington-police-stolen-bikes.html
TerisaG (California)
Posts: 10
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Someone is obviously getting their pockets padded when suddenly we are paying $18,000 more to a vendor for a service we were just receiving from another vendor at the lower price. All the new vendor did was hire the employee that was working at our complex under the previous vendor and then bumped up the contract price by $18,000. The employee thinks his is still working for the first vendor and that the first vendor simply changed their company name. Top that off with the fact that the PM who signed the new contract has a relationship with the owner of the new company that is gouging our HOA. And the owner of the new company is a president of a different HOA that she and our PM are reportedly ripping off as well. I understand, Melissa P, that you are a former HOA President so you want to cut these people some slack, but your bias is clearly showing.
TerisaG (California)
Posts: 10
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Thank you Augustin, you have been very helpful. I understand my proof isn't perfect but the circumstantial evidence is undeniable. I attempted to attend an HOA meeting tonight for the purpose of asking the Board about this and also in regard to approval of plans for construction to my unit. Even though the court has told the HOA that they have to let me attend the meetings remotely, the minute I connected to the meeting, I was kicked off and not allowed to rejoin. I have tried sending emails to the email address for our Board (again, allowed per the court's direction) and they have blocked my emails. The PM I am allowed to communicate with directly is now ignoring my emails and will provide me with no further information. My husband is handicapped and I need to have work done on my unit to make it safer for him (i.e., changing the bathtub to a shower and adding handrails) but I am not allowed to do these things without first obtaining Board approval. Since I am cut off from the Board I cannot proceed and the situation is dangerous for my husband as it stands right now. I have decided to withhold my HOA fees until I am allowed to appear at an HOA meeting. I understand that the HOA fees are what supports the whole community, but I am receiving less benefit from my fees than other homeowners and being kept in the dark. I am willing to pay the fees when they stop discriminating against me.
CathyA3 (Ohio)
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Posted By TerisaG on 11/17/2022 5:43 AM
Thank you Augustin, you have been very helpful. I understand my proof isn't perfect but the circumstantial evidence is undeniable. I attempted to attend an HOA meeting tonight for the purpose of asking the Board about this and also in regard to approval of plans for construction to my unit. Even though the court has told the HOA that they have to let me attend the meetings remotely, the minute I connected to the meeting, I was kicked off and not allowed to rejoin. I have tried sending emails to the email address for our Board (again, allowed per the court's direction) and they have blocked my emails. The PM I am allowed to communicate with directly is now ignoring my emails and will provide me with no further information. My husband is handicapped and I need to have work done on my unit to make it safer for him (i.e., changing the bathtub to a shower and adding handrails) but I am not allowed to do these things without first obtaining Board approval. Since I am cut off from the Board I cannot proceed and the situation is dangerous for my husband as it stands right now. I have decided to withhold my HOA fees until I am allowed to appear at an HOA meeting. I understand that the HOA fees are what supports the whole community, but I am receiving less benefit from my fees than other homeowners and being kept in the dark. I am willing to pay the fees when they stop discriminating against me.

Do not stop paying your assessments. You'll be in the wrong, and depending on how stubborn you are, you may end up losing money and even your home over it. (We had a owner who decided to "teach the board a lesson", and ended up losing their home to foreclosure.) This is not a winning move.

I'm confused why you need approval to modify the interior of your home. Typically the interior belongs to the homeowner, and the association has nothing to do with maintaining it. Are they claiming that this work may affect the building's structure? That is a valid concern, and wanting to see permits and plans is reasonable. But holding up the work for no reason isn't.

Put all of your communications with the board in writing. You should do it anyway whenever you need approvals, and if the board is unreasonably obstructing work, you'll need proof to support your position.
CathyA3 (Ohio)
Posts: 6,299
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Posted By TerisaG on 11/17/2022 5:33 AM
Someone is obviously getting their pockets padded when suddenly we are paying $18,000 more to a vendor for a service we were just receiving from another vendor at the lower price. All the new vendor did was hire the employee that was working at our complex under the previous vendor and then bumped up the contract price by $18,000. The employee thinks his is still working for the first vendor and that the first vendor simply changed their company name. Top that off with the fact that the PM who signed the new contract has a relationship with the owner of the new company that is gouging our HOA. And the owner of the new company is a president of a different HOA that she and our PM are reportedly ripping off as well. I understand, Melissa P, that you are a former HOA President so you want to cut these people some slack, but your bias is clearly showing.

Not true. Different vendors charge different amounts for their services. In addition, inflation is causing the prices of most things to rise significantly - it's unreasonable to expect to continue to pay the same amount for the same service.

Many associations make a mistake by always going with the low bid. I believe that you get what you pay for. The really good vendors usually have more work than they can handle, and can charge more for a better quality product. Finally, a vendor may not want to mess with small jobs. They may bid on them but quote a higher price - this encourages the association to go with someone else but still keep the first company on the list for future jobs.
AugustinD
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Posted By TerisaG on 11/17/2022 5:33 AM
Someone is obviously getting their pockets padded when suddenly we are paying $18,000 more to a vendor for a service we were just receiving from another vendor at the lower price.
I disagree that there's anything obviously wrong here.

I agree with CathyA3's last two posts here (and like 90% of anything else she posts). I was going to post similar, but she said it all way better, as is often the case.

Please consider starting a new thread on the subjects of (1) communications with the MC (management company) and board; and (2) needing xyz done, especially given you have a spouse who is disabled. Both of these topics are important.

I expect the board and manager now view their relationship with you through the lens of past behavior. Which is human nature and reasonable, AFAIC. If you start these other threads, I am going to (hopefully tactfully) pound on improving your communications so that you have the best chances of getting what you need going forward. And isn't this the only thing that should really matter?

Hang in there. I know it's tough.
AugustinD
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Posted By AugustinD on 11/17/2022 6:54 AM
Please consider starting a new thread on the subjects of (1) communications with the MC (management company) and board; and (2) needing xyz done, especially given you have a spouse who is disabled. Both of these topics are important.
Pardon. Please start two new threads (one thread per topic).
ManiaC
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OP,

NO, the Association can not.

YOUR options:

MYOB

or

relocate.

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