LisaS (Illinois)
Posts: 341
Posts: 341
Posted:
I suddenly find myself in an unfortunate situation.
I am on the only female member of a 5 member single family HOA Board. It is a very long story, but it culminates in a member of our Board personally attacking me, using slander, spreading untrue rumor and gossip, and threatening lawsuits. I seem to be the victim of choice- either because I am the most outspoken on our Board, have the trust of the other members, or am a woman. I am unsure which.
He has an irrational view that myself and our the remainder of our Board have somehow treated him badly. We have only tried to include him (he is a new member), accomodate his excuses that he is 'too busy' to help on many things, and hold him accountable for things he promised to do but never completed. Over 8 months, he has done nothing but show up at a few Board meetings and answer a few emails. Our association is self managed- so this is a huge problem. At one point, he even 'disappeared' for 4 weeks with no response to Board emails, phone calls, visits to his home, or attendance at Board meetings. His excuse? he was angry.
Following his 4 week absence, we collectively asked that he either participate or resign. He finally responded, and chaos has ensued. he refused to resign and our documents don't provide for removal. So to do so would not be easy.
This Board member is an attorney. He has now demanded every Board email ever written to be delivered to him. As well, copies of any and all letters we/I have written regarding violations. He also refers to 'a list of those I have screwed over' and telephone numbers for them. He wants them copied and sent immediately and he will pay the copy cost. Or of course...he will sue.
We are a not-for-profit in Illinois. My understanding is that when requested in writing he is enitled to records of account, declaration, plat, list of members, etc. Public records. however, not emails or violations. It is more complicated because he is a Board member.
Should we deny his request, ignore it, give these things to him? What if he disseminates the violations we have written? It exposes us to great liability due to privacy concerns (not anything we have done wrong).
Also...if he is a Board member and he sue the "Board", is he not also suing himself? We are exempt from personal liability as we have done nothing wrong.
Thanks for any help or thoughts. We are supposed to meeting with this malcontent this evening to clear the air (if he even shows up...)
Lisa
I am on the only female member of a 5 member single family HOA Board. It is a very long story, but it culminates in a member of our Board personally attacking me, using slander, spreading untrue rumor and gossip, and threatening lawsuits. I seem to be the victim of choice- either because I am the most outspoken on our Board, have the trust of the other members, or am a woman. I am unsure which.
He has an irrational view that myself and our the remainder of our Board have somehow treated him badly. We have only tried to include him (he is a new member), accomodate his excuses that he is 'too busy' to help on many things, and hold him accountable for things he promised to do but never completed. Over 8 months, he has done nothing but show up at a few Board meetings and answer a few emails. Our association is self managed- so this is a huge problem. At one point, he even 'disappeared' for 4 weeks with no response to Board emails, phone calls, visits to his home, or attendance at Board meetings. His excuse? he was angry.
Following his 4 week absence, we collectively asked that he either participate or resign. He finally responded, and chaos has ensued. he refused to resign and our documents don't provide for removal. So to do so would not be easy.
This Board member is an attorney. He has now demanded every Board email ever written to be delivered to him. As well, copies of any and all letters we/I have written regarding violations. He also refers to 'a list of those I have screwed over' and telephone numbers for them. He wants them copied and sent immediately and he will pay the copy cost. Or of course...he will sue.
We are a not-for-profit in Illinois. My understanding is that when requested in writing he is enitled to records of account, declaration, plat, list of members, etc. Public records. however, not emails or violations. It is more complicated because he is a Board member.
Should we deny his request, ignore it, give these things to him? What if he disseminates the violations we have written? It exposes us to great liability due to privacy concerns (not anything we have done wrong).
Also...if he is a Board member and he sue the "Board", is he not also suing himself? We are exempt from personal liability as we have done nothing wrong.
Thanks for any help or thoughts. We are supposed to meeting with this malcontent this evening to clear the air (if he even shows up...)
Lisa